Parenting Through the Predator Paradox

My first introduction to Internet safety was the story of Alicia Kozakiewicz, the girl who was abducted by an Internet predator and underwent unspeakable horrors while held in his basement for four days. (read her story here.)

Though Alicia’s story is a clear-cut warning about meeting online strangers, the topic of online predators is probably the most confusing area of all for parents that are looking to protect their kids. Just how much of a threat predators pose to children continues to be a matter of debate due to differing opinions from Internet safety experts and law enforcement.

Larry Magid, a well-known and respected Internet safety author and expert, recently called concern over online predators “panic” and was glad that the panic had largely gone away in recent years. He goes on to write:

Safety experts and law enforcement studies from the Crimes Against Children Research Center and elsewhere show that, statistically, the odds of a prepubescent child being sexually molested by an online stranger is virtually zero and the odds of it happening to a teenager are very low, especially when compared with children who are harmed by family members and others they know from the real world.

Right after reading this I ran across this news item, detailing a horrific tale of another girl, 16 years old, who was tied up and raped by a man she met online. Just today I ran across a story of a 13-year-old girl who was about to board a bus to meet a man she met playing the online game World of Warcraft. Luckily police got to her in time.

Furthermore, the study that Magid is referring to actually shows a 402% increase in the arrest of online predators from 2000 to 2006, so there is clear statistical and case-by-case evidence that the problem not only exists, but is actually getting worse. However, the same study shows that of teens that were solicited over the Internet, only 4% of those encounters actually resulted in an abduction.

So parents are left to choose what to believe: Internet safety experts who use words like “panic” and “hysteria” to describe concern about predators, and the numerous, documented cases throughout the U.S. of sexual criminals using the Internet to snare children.

While the “odds” may be low regarding online abductions of teens, using that argument is obscuring the issue for most parents who are much more concerned about what could happen to their child rather than statistics regarding what happens to the entire U.S. population. However, most researchers who cover the topic are trained to think and speak in terms of large populations and aggregate numbers, so the disconnect exists.

It is incumbent on Internet safety organizations to present a clear picture to parents of what the real risk is regarding predators, without using language that exaggerates or downplays the threat. Parents need to know not only dangers regarding worst-case scenarios involving abduction and rape, but also much more likely scenarios such as their child receiving sexual messages from a stranger that may disturb the child, or even being coerced into trading pictures that could then be used to blackmail the child into further sexual actions.

6 Responses to “Parenting Through the Predator Paradox”

  1. “Furthermore, the study that Magid is referring to actually shows a 402% increase in the arrest of online predators from 2000 to 2006, so there is clear statistical and case-by-case evidence that the problem not only exists, but is actually getting worse.”

    Whoever wrote that? Go back to school. Study basic statistics. Because you just flunked it. You’re wrong for two reasons, either of which should be blindingly obvious.

    Firstly, the internet was exploding in popularity during that period. More people online means more crime online, whatever the crime.

    Secondly, because 2000-2008 also happens to be the period when the most successful crackdown on child porn ever was in play – in the UK under the codename Operation Ore, with constant exchange of information with the FBI handling the american side.

    Is it any surprise that convictions went up so high?

    Other than that, what can you offer? Single examples and scarey stories, that’s all. Worthless. You’re trying to mask the extremally low danger by terrifying parents into overreacting.

  2. Thanks for your comments. What is really needed is a realistic portrayal of the problem that informs parents not only of worst case scenarios like the ones in the post, and of their real likelihood, but also what are more common scenarios associated with chatting and chat rooms. And whatever your opinions on the reason for the 402% increase, the fact is there was a 402% increase in arrests according to the study. The fact that the majority of the arrests were due to increases in law enforcement involvement only shows that tactics fighting the problem are working, not that the problem is somehow going away or non-existent.

    All we are saying is that this is a confusing area for parents because they are getting mixed signals, and there needs to be a clear examination of the problem that neither seeks to downplay or exaggerate the threat.

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  4. We are confused about who actually sees a video that is posted to Utube. Our 13 y.o. daughter, made a video of herself singing a song and then posted it to Utube. She maintains that only her friends (people she has given her email address to) can view this. I don’t agree.

    Who is correct?

  5. Hi Diane,

    YouTube does allow users to post videos and only share it with friends. Users can set a video to private and select 20 people to share it with, so your daughter could very well be telling you the truth. This is a great example of why it’s a good idea for parents to get accounts at all the major social networking sites, including video sharing sites such as YouTube and Vimeo, so that they can familiarize themselves with the user options.

  6. children should not be allowed to use the internet until 16 thats my veiw

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